Are you in the flow of life? Are you able to accept things as they are? Do you get aggravated when things don’t go your way? Do you always have to be in control of every situation by holding on to every detail?
As you look around you, know that the Universe is taking care of you.
When we stop and check into our lives we realize that we have everything that we need – family, friends, talents, things, abundance. When we are grateful for what we already have and let go, life is even more abundant.
Being grateful is a powerful thing. Understand that the Universe will always take care of us as we can let go of our struggles and simply live in that abundance and just be. As we express our gratitude to the Universe, it becomes easy to live with ease and flow. It is always giving back to us with more abundance.
When we learn to let go of the old patterns of who we used to be, we realize that we can release those things in our lives that make us agitated and keep us in lack. When we are grateful, we become empowered to overcome our struggles and instead of holding on to a specific plan or feeling or thing, we allow ourselves to be free. That’s when life becomes harmonious and happy and joyful. That’s when our soul sings. That’s when we can just be. That’s when we are in the flow. You already have everything you need. Let it go, let it flow.
We all know the saying ….”What we give out, we get back.” We can either give or get out of fear or love.
It’s your choice.
In this moment, your feelings, thoughts and actions are what you are creating for your tomorrows. If you waste time on negative thinking, judging people, busying yourself with trivial matters, letting your emotions run your life or limiting yourself in any way, you are planning what is going to happen in your life tomorrow and the next day and the next.
Each and every thought you think is creating your future. When you think a negative thought it limits you and just adds to the pile of other negative thoughts that go through your head on a daily basis. This only makes us feel worse about ourselves and limits our future positive thoughts.
Isn’t it wonderful to know that you have control over this? You can change your life just by adjusting what you think. When you spend time thinking of negative things you don’t want, you are doing yourself a dis-service. That only make you more upset and unhappy. It takes you out of the “flow”. Negative thoughts only create more of what you don’t want.
“The only thing that ever limits us is our thinking.”
~ Louise Hay ~
These thoughts are now in the past. And since the past has no power over us, every thought that we choose to think today could bring endless opportunities for our future. Just think of how wonderful it would be to think positive thoughts every day.
We can create a happy and fulfilling life just by changing our thoughts about ourselves, our bodies, our friends, our associates, family members and the world. Watch every day turn into a joyous and successful experience. And we can do all of this just by changing our thoughts.
It’s so simple.
Start by using positive affirmations. Whenever a negative thought comes into your mind, stop and tell it “Thanks for stopping by . . . ” Then change that thought into a positive one. Train your thoughts to think things that make you feel joyful and positive instead of feeling negative. Try it and see how you feel today.
“The past is over and done and has no power over me. I can begin to be free in this moment. Today’s thoughts create my future. I am in charge. I now take my own power back. I am safe and I am free.”
~ Louise Hay ~
I choose to think joyous and happy thoughts today.
Today, I behold all the abundance that surrounds me.
I love my life and my life loves me.
I embrace my potential to be, do and have whatever I can dream.
Everything I desire is within me.
About the Photo: Hedgehog Cactus at the Arizona Botanical Gardens.
Get a life in which you are generous.
And realize that life is the best thing ever,
and that you have no business taking it for granted.
~ Anna Quindlen ~
Are you enjoying the little things in life like a new blossom on a tree or the company of friends or loved ones?
What do you see first when you wake up in the morning? Do you take a deep breath of fresh air when you walk outside on a beautiful Spring morning?
Look at your life right now and see what you might be taking for granted.
Don’t wait until a catastrophe stops you in your tracks to realize how precious your life is.
In what ways have you been taking YOUR life for granted lately?
Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?
Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?
Do you fear being thought of as “strange” if you “stand out”?
Are “different” from others?
Do you look at the world through different eyes?
Do you know your gifts? Are you grateful for them?
You are your greatest gift!
We all spend more time than necessary trying to fit in or blend. It’s the way our culture has programmed us. But consider this …. some people were meant to stand out. However, for many of us, the older we get, the more we don’t care how much we stand out in the crowd because we have finally come to reason with our self-esteem.
Accept who you are even if you are different or stand alone. It doesn’t matter. You are your own person, an individual who has confidence to accept who you are in the face of others who may laugh at you. Let them laugh! Besides, what you think of me …. is none of my business!
You are and have something special, whether you know it or not right now.
Love yourself! Be thankful for your gifts. You are the greatest gift of all!
Live your own life. Stand in your own confidence. Start living your life as if no one is watching.
It’s a beautiful world and it’s all right out there in front of you. Go for it!!
…and once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive, you won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over, but one thing is certain… when you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in … that is what this storm is all about.
~ Haruki Murakami ~
So what happens when we come upon an obstacle while hiking? We climb over it or walk around it.
What happens when we find obstacles in life? Same thing.
They say that obstacles are what one sees when we take our eyes off our goals. The obstacle can’t stop you no matter what it is or how big it is if you truly want to reach the other side. Other people can’t stop you. Circumstances can’t stop you. The only one that can stop you is yourself. Are you your own obstacle?
climb over it
go through it
work around it
Use that obstacle as an opportunity to learn and grow even though it may be difficult. You can give up or you can figure out how to turn it around and make it an opportunity.
What obstacles have you encountered on your journey? How have they strengthened you?
Hindsight is always 20/20. In retrospect, what obstacles have made you grateful and strengthened you?
You poses unstoppable energy to get through any obstacle in your life. You already have everything you need.
Connect and reconnect with your awareness.
“You don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are.”
~ Wayne Dyer ~
Mindfully walking in the warm sunlight,
A large boulder called to me,
“Sit down and enjoy the surroundings of Nature”.
Birds singing songs of happiness,
Crickets chirping to the beat of my heart.
Majestic mountains of green in the distance
Whispered to me through the wind,
“Walk in Peace.”
Glistening red rocks spoke softly,
“Make time every day to Just Be.”
Live your life like a work of art.
~ Wayne Dyer ~
What would it be like to live your life like a work of art in progress?
How would your life be if you treated it like a masterpiece that you are working on every day?
Look at the lives of your heroes. Who is your most influential person that left a positive impression on you? Someone that stands heads above the rest with a message that you want to emulate. What was their approach to love and living a life of success and contentment, serving and giving of their ideals and what they taught?
We spend our entire lives trying to be successful, to perform up to the standards of our peers and achieve what others have. It’s like we are on a wheel, chasing our own tail, competing with everyone around us.
How much does this all matter to you?
When you tune in to the things we stand for, the things that mean something to us, they will show up in our life.
What are you here for? How are you going to live your life? How will you serve others? Is this important to you?
Your life becomes a beautiful piece of art, perfect and in harmony with the Universe. Everything that you asked for will show up in some way or another. It may not be exactly as you wanted, but the Universe will bring it to you as it is supposed to be.
Now, go get to work on your masterpiece and see what shows up. What will your masterpiece look like?
Learn from the past, get vivid, detailed goals for the future,
and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: NOW.
~ Denis Waitley ~
It feels good when you have control of a situation, but when someone is controlling you, that’s a different story. We’ve all been in a situation like this: one person stands out in the crowd who absolutely needs to have their voice heard and they will go to any length to do so, either by dominating the conversation with a choke-hold, or they keep interrupting anyone else that is talking. It’s “I-want-to-talk-about-me-only”. They set the guidelines for the conversation with “I-want-it-my-way” or else.
And, when you confront them, they may even get defensive because they don’t understand your logic. Anyone standing in the background of the conversation sees what is happening. When a controlling person continually tries to control us, at some point, perhaps, we just shut up and do what they want us to do in order to avoid another conflict. However, they can’t come into your life, your home or your situation unless you invite them in the first place. So, we need to see the signs of a controlling person and not extend that invitation to them.
In order to get things back to an even keel again, there are some things you can try in order to understand their behavior or to minimize the effects they have on you.
First, let’s try to understand what is going on. Anyone who is trying to control you or others in their path is generally out of control themselves in their mind. They feel a lack of control in their lives and outwardly show the world how they really want to be. They latch on to people they can control in hopes that it will make them feel better. It’s become their style.
So, when they try to control us, we take it personally. It’s not about you. It’s totally about them. So don’t take it personally and allow them to become your personal vampire. (Remember, vampires always require an invitation.) It is about their sense of inner control but they need to express it as an outward expression and you might get hurt, but they don’t care, because it’s always about them. This type of behavior didn’t just start with you. It has been happening for them long before you met. They have a knack for doing this to everyone they meet and they do it very well.
Really, what it means is that they have a low opinion of themselves. Their inner trust level measures at about “one” on the scale. They have their own attachment to the outcome of the conversation or the situation. And they won’t let go of that. They hide their vulnerability well, but when you really examine this, they really are vulnerable to themselves, and to those that understand them.
So what do you do about a controlling person?
Firstly, don’t engage in a conversation with them. When you feel or see the first “red flag” walk away. Don’t get caught in their web. It’s not about winning. Do what you need to do …. excuse yourself from the room, hang up the phone or don’t return their email or text. Stop allowing. Period. Hopefully, they will get the hint that this type of behavior is not acceptable with you, but don’t be surprised if they weren’t listening to you at all. It may take some time, so be patient, if you dare.
Secondly, don’t react to them with words or actions. Remain calm and in control of yourself. Remember, you now see this coming. As they say, lay your armor down at your feet. This, in and of itself, is your strength and shows them you are not going to be threatened by them. Don’t react to them because that’s what they really want, so they can use more of their control to control you. Stay fearless. By doing this and feeling the energy they are emitting, you are better able to walk away without conflict. Everything is energy …. some good, some bad. When we feel their energy, and demonstrate fear, the situation will only get worse and their controlling gets more intense.
Third, ask for their help. This is what they want …. to be in control. But turn the tables on them by asking what it is that they want. Ask how they would like something done or where the conversation is going. Find out what is important to them and look for a solution to resolve the problem. You will be directing the control toward you and away from them without them actually knowing it. It’s not about competition but about cooperation. Ask yourself, “What do I want and what am I willing to risk losing in order to get it?”
And finally, trust yourself. Try to look past their behaviors and not judge them. Remain calm and bring happiness and peace to the situation. You can only think of what you want from where you currently stand. Be very clear of what you want. Set forth your intention. The Universe is teaching you a deeper lesson. You are here to learn from it. Accept that lesson. Look past this person’s issues and try to understand them. Forgive them. Love them.
It’s also about saying, “I don’t want to have a relationship with you. I take full responsibility for my will and my decision.” Say what is truly in your heart, not what you think they want to hear.
It may appear that you have given them the wrong impression about your relationship. Apologize that you mislead them and tell them you are sorry for your actions in sending a confusing message by your past words and actions. Then move on with your journey.
It’s time to take your power back.
Speak from your heart.
Stay in the light.
Don’t invite the vampire / controlling person. Remember vampires don’t like the dark, it is essential to them.
Walk in presence. Step into the NOW.
Now . . . go out and seek the love and support of new friends and relationships.
Who are we to judge another when we ourselves don’t know what we are seeking?
The most obvious thing is that none of us are without faults and peculiarities. The act of judging takes a person out of their own life to deal with the business and problems of others. And really, do you have time for that?