Which are you?

 

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Today’s question: Are you living in an awakened consciousness or an ego consciousness?
So many things happen in our lives where we tend to feel hurt or taken advantage of. This is normal according to our culture and upbringing. Someone says or does something to us that hurts  deeply and immediately we feel anger and rage within us. That is the ego consciousness.
But, what if we, instead, we tapped into our awakened consciousness? In this state we no longer feel the negative emotions. This gives us freedom from suffering and detaches us from the negative ego. This is empowering. This is freedom. This is no longer being the victim but being the victor. The Universe gives us these situations in order for us to grow. If life were always fun and games, no one would grow.
When we tap into our inner feelings, really feel what is going on, we can identify with our ego suffering. The world is suffering from ego poisoning.  When we claim our “Is-ness”, which is the quality of being, life changes. From “Is-ness” we find universal love and forgiveness and freedom.
So next time you feel anger or rage from one of life’s challenges, tap into that feeling, deeply feel it. Question it. Don’t take it personally. When you are on the journey of crystal clarity, you feel and live the whole inner process of re-claiming who you are and resolving the situation or problem becomes an easy process.
So which are you?
Are you living in awakened consciousness or ego consciousness?
Are you the victim or the victor?
Live Awake!
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Distracting Thoughts

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What negative thoughts distract you? Thinking of what others have done? Or what they havee not done? Telling yourself stories in your head? Focusing on the past? Or the future?
Are you aware of these negative thoughts? They are a distraction. When we focus on negative thoughts we block the way for being in the present moment and experiencing true happiness, joy, love and conscious living.
But …. being aware of what is really happening every day, every moment, is difficult. It takes work. It takes choice. And only you can make that decision.
How many times have you had worries or made up a story in your mind that was absolutely untrue? These stories come from our former beliefs, those thoughts we grew up with, and the judgments that we carry with us throughout our lives. We have trained ourselves to judge and criticize others and ourselves, not to have self-empathy and self-compassion, telling ourselves that we don’t deserve what we have. It comes from the opinions that we have held for years and years. It could be about ourselves or someone else. In the end, it just makes us sad and depressed, worried and unhappy. Somehow it just seems easier to keep those self-criticisms and live with them day after day rather than letting them go.
As youngsters we learned to pay attention to what we were thinking. Can’t you hear your Mom telling you to pay attention right now? We have become so used to paying attention that we forget about what is really going on around us in the present moment. Or one person tells us that we can’t do something right and we believe it and carry it with us for the rest of our life. As we grow older, we hold on to all those negative sayings and thoughts and tell them to ourselves every day. It’s the same ole, same ole day in and day out. We are living in our heads instead of our hearts.
It took years to build these thoughts and feelings of the Ego so it can be difficult to let go of them.  The Egoic Mind, as Eckhart Tolle says, is a reflection of our childhood beliefs that we grew up with and we have been relying on them and telling ourselves stories stemming from these thoughts for years and years.

It’s time for change.

It’s time to make the choice to get our of our heads and into our Inner Being. Let go of the worry, the stories, the fears and just be.

So how do you do this? I could tell you what I am experiencing as I sit here typing this into my blog. But you wouldn’t feel it. Only I can feel it. You have to experience being aware for yourself. No one can do it for you.
First, be aware of what is happening in this very moment. What are you thinking right now? Is it positive or negative? Feel where you body is right now. If you are sitting in front of the computer, feel your body in the chair, feet on the floor, feel your back against the chair. Really stop to feel these sensations. Is the air around you warm or cool? Is your body warm or cool, or just right? What do you smell? What do you see in front of you? What do you hear inside or outside? Now do you hear the birds singing? So many times we are unaware of their beautiful symphonies until we stop and listen.
By becoming aware we allow our senses to feel the juiciness of our being. Give yourself love and compassion because you do deserve it. Tell this to yourself every day, several times a day. When you walk past a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say, “I love you!” And really mean it.
Add awareness to your thoughts this coming week. When you add awareness to your behavior, feelings or thoughts you tune into your Inner World. So instead of beating yourself up with negative thoughts and untrue stories, be gentle with yourself. Lighten up and stay aware. Observe your thoughts more closely. Check in with yourself often to make sure you are being aware. Step back from any dramatic situation and wake up to awareness. This takes work but you will gain insight and those thoughts and feelings will gradually be replaced by positive thoughts, awareness and insight.
Try that exercise during this coming week. Notice what happens.
 
 
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Raging Egos

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Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them ….
it just means you love yourself.

Dealing with Conflict, Negativity and Raging Egos

We all react to negative things …. whether it is something that someone said to us or an act they did against us. When we react to it, we are causing chaos within ourselves and mentally and physically creating pain inside ourselves.  Perhaps you find it difficult to breath when you think of the person and the hurt inside yourself, your heart starts racing, or you get a pain in your gut and the feeling won’t go away.
When people treat others negatively, it is a true reflection of their own inner being. They express their negativity toward you because they are expressing their own inner negative and hurtful expressions. You just happen to be the one at that moment that they are attacking. The Ego loves conflict and drama. One minute they say complementary things to you and the next minute they are taking you down. This action feeds their Ego’s need for conflict and drama. It’s what keeps them going. It’s their oxygen. It is their dis-ease. 

The cells of your body react to everything your mind thinks.

Don’t allow a negative thought to enter
and bring down your immune system.

Remember …. It’s NOT about you ….. it’s about THEM!

So, we respond impulsively and want to lash out at them because of what they said or did to us. That’s a natural response. However, it is not always the smartest thing to do. Nothing will ever be resolved by fueling their fire. It may feel good to fight back, but that is a physical, egoic response. That type of action does not feed our soul and emotional or spiritual stability. That only tightens the gut strings and then our mind starts a one sided conversation telling us things that we shouldn’t be thinking about them in the first place. It is truly a battle of our Ego. It is not only unproductive but it is unnecessary in trying to determine who is right. Anger only feeds anger just as negativity feeds negativity. And nothing good can come from angry and negative feelings and emotions. It’s a downward spiral in trying to defend ourselves. Not only that, it is a waste of our energy.

“Where attention goes, energy flows.”

“What we focus on expands.”

When we focus on negative things we are doing a disservice to our well-being and our intellect. We are wasting our energy that could be focused on our success and for the good of our selves and others. Once you start thinking negatively on one subject it will carry over to the rest of your life, causing hurt and damage to others that may be standing in your path. It’s like a domino effect. Not only do we not feel good but that vibration affects those around us. We carry this energy with us wherever we go and it causes us to lose sight of our balance and clarity which is necessary for our well-being and keeping our Ego in check.

“What you think of me is none of my business!”

Everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it. They are free to express their feelings no matter if they are right or wrong about you. This perspective is their own. We may see something as totally positive and right and the other person may see it in an entirely different light. When we react to their comments or actions it becomes a win-lose situation. Just as they have the right to express themselves, we have the power to choose our response to them. We can engage in conflict or we can choose to walk away.

I choose peace!!

So ….. how do we deal with these difficult people that may be in our lives?
First of all, it rarely turns out well to attack these people who have hurt you. It is best if you sleep on it and not respond right away. We are all human and have Egos and emotions. In order to promote your own health and well-being we must keep our Ego in check. We may just need to walk away from the situation and not respond or we can deliver our message of truth and light to that person. No matter what, we need to keep our Ego under control and not allow a bad situation to get worse.
One thing to ask ourselves is, “Can I forgive this person?” We are all basically good inside but sometimes our judgment gets clouded with negativity and emotions take over our thoughts and actions. We might also ask “What is the Universe trying to teach me in this moment?” Let us not forget that this could be the Universe’s way of showing them their Awakening. We certainly don’t want to stand in the way of their enlightenment. 
The best thing to do is to allow some time to pass even though you feel compelled to instantly lash back at them. When you become emotionally charged and fired up you only add fuel to their fire. Perhaps this is what they want. But this is not what you want. Allow a cool off time. Write in your journal or write an email to yourself expressing your feelings and then delete it. You could also write down all the things about this person or situation that annoy you and are causing you to be this emotional. Write freely without stopping util you have exhausted the subject Now go outside and burn the paper. Let it go!! Visualize all the negative energy burning up and disappearing.
When we are angry and emotional our Ego is raging. Before doing anything, cool off. Don’t act in haste. Instead, nurture yourself from within. Sleep on it. Journal. Meditate. Get out into Nature and think on these things.
Perhaps you choose not to respond to them at all. Really, how much does it matter to your success and well-being, physically, mentally and spiritually? Do you really need to be right? What’s in it for you to be the champion of an argument? This is all unnecessary.
If you choose not to respond, you are, in essence, stopping the cycle. They may be trying their best to get a rise out of you and hurt you further, but it is your choice to “Let it Go!” Don’t give in to what they are looking for. Stop the snowball effect and walk away.

And stop talking about it. People just love to tell others a “he-said-she-said” story. They will talk at length to anyone that will listen. The more we talk about the situation or that person, the more emotional feelings we stir up within ourselves and the more we find fault, dislike for that person or situation and it does us no good to keep repeating the same thing over and over. What we fail to notice is that the more we talk about it, the more it expands, zaps our energy and keeps us from seeking what the Universe wants for us. Refuse to give them that energy. Stop thinking and talking about it. Period! 

When we continue to talk about it, it is like reading the same chapter of a book over and over. 

Instead, develop compassion for this person. We all know the story about walking a mile in someone’s shoes. Better yet, look for the lessons. Everything happens for a reason. This is how we grow and become a better human being. There is a hidden gift in every circumstance and situation that you encounter in your life.

You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind!

That being said, move on …. eliminate negativity from your life. It does not serve you. It only slows you down. It is a drain on your energy and intelligence. It drains your emotions and leaves you feeling weak and unfulfilled. It is best to cut them off from your life. Life is too short to be in constant battle with negativity. People who are unhappy tend to want everyone around them to feel the same way. Get out of their way and continue on your journey of happiness. Avoid them and stop all interactions with them.

This is your choice.

You can choose to continue a relationship or you can walk away. Wash your hands of the energy drain and cut them out of your life. Don’t look back.  Surround yourself with people who support and nourish you, people who love and need you in their lives. Find people that are positive and optimistic and spend time with them. Notice how much differently you feel when these type of people fill your moments.
When we get angry and act like that person, we are going down to their level of unacceptable behavior. Know when you are having emotions of negativity and then reach out to someone who will support you, unconditionally. Don’t allow emotions and negativity to consume you. You can bring focus to these situations by checking in with your breathing. If you breathing is shallow and fast, stop and focus on what you are thinking. Change your pattern. You can do this by going for a walk in Nature, exercising or stopping to meditate and concentrate on your breathing.

Ask yourself: What will happen if I respond back to this person? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that will happen? These questions will add perspective to your thinking and actions. Answering these questions honestly, with thought and purpose, will help create an inner peace and lead you to the answers.

Let it be!
And so it is!
Aho!

Further Reading:
The Sedona Method  by Hale Dwoskin
The Power of NOW by Echkart Tolle
The New Earth by Echkart Tolle
Creative Visualization  by Shakti  Gawain
Stand Like Mountain Flow Like Water  by Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
Happy for No Reason by Marcie Shimof
Emotional Freedom  by Judith Orloff, M.D.
About the photo:  Sunset on Redondo Beach, CA.

What's Your Story?

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“You are the main character in the story of yourself.”
~ Eckhart Tolle ~

So, what’s your story?
How is your story working for you?
Are you alive?
Can you feel it?
Most people go through their day by rote …. totally in their heads….. absorbed in their thoughts. They live with their ego and their story.  Their minds are chattering endlessly.  Are you continually thinking of what to do next, what to say next? That is a normal tendency, but when you are in the present moment you give attention to those thoughts and to your body.
When we let go of the ego, and get to know our main character, the real you . . . your mind is quieter and calmer. You notice things you never saw before even though it is the same path you have traveled many times. When you look for the spaces of quietness and calm you become more alive. Your thoughts are more productive, spontaneous and suddenly you realize you have a new way of looking at things.
Get out of playing the game of your life. Do something new and creative and different and challenging. Discover who you really are …… your true essence. Get to know the deeper YOU. Concentrate on your inner body instead of the outer self.
Redirect your thoughts into the aliveness of your body. Live differently!
Sit still for a few minutes every day, and notice the changes. It’s just a matter of taking the time. Make the time. Make it a habit.
What does your body need? Perhaps healthier food, more exercise and energy, more attention. Give your mind, body and spirit the attention it is craving. Give it balance. If you don’t, it’s like living in a huge mansion and only inhabiting one room in the basement.
 

Letting Go of Judgments

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Today I will let go of all judgments.

How often do we go through the day making judgments? Stop for a moment and think about that. It’s something that we may do unconsciously. We label things, people or actions. We define them in our own critical way. Where there is criticism, there is no love. We evaluate and analyse our co-workers, family or friends. Judgment means putting things in a category or classifing things or people. We call them right or wrong in our opinion.
Instead, today, make yourself aware of what you are judging and analyzing and let go of the need to label anything. Think about what happens when we judge someone. It makes them feel wrong, hurt or separated and isolated from you. This is how the ego defends itself. Actually, this is a disconnection from your true self, thus building up walls and shutting off the flow of Source.
When we stop judgment and criticism, we are basically saying to ourselves that we are willing to let things flow before making a decision on the outcome, person or situation, whether it is good or bad.
Today I will let go of all judgments so that I can experience a flow and silence within.
Today I will be the watcher instead of letting my ego take control of my thoughts.
Today I will align myself with the Universe and letting go of all my judgments that may creep into my mind.
Today I will not label the actions of anyone.
Today I will not evaluate or judge any circumstances.
Today I will not analyse the outcome of anything.
Today I will let go of all judgments.
Today I will be aware of my thoughts.
And so it is!
 
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