Which are you?

 

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Today’s question: Are you living in an awakened consciousness or an ego consciousness?
So many things happen in our lives where we tend to feel hurt or taken advantage of. This is normal according to our culture and upbringing. Someone says or does something to us that hurts  deeply and immediately we feel anger and rage within us. That is the ego consciousness.
But, what if we, instead, we tapped into our awakened consciousness? In this state we no longer feel the negative emotions. This gives us freedom from suffering and detaches us from the negative ego. This is empowering. This is freedom. This is no longer being the victim but being the victor. The Universe gives us these situations in order for us to grow. If life were always fun and games, no one would grow.
When we tap into our inner feelings, really feel what is going on, we can identify with our ego suffering. The world is suffering from ego poisoning.  When we claim our “Is-ness”, which is the quality of being, life changes. From “Is-ness” we find universal love and forgiveness and freedom.
So next time you feel anger or rage from one of life’s challenges, tap into that feeling, deeply feel it. Question it. Don’t take it personally. When you are on the journey of crystal clarity, you feel and live the whole inner process of re-claiming who you are and resolving the situation or problem becomes an easy process.
So which are you?
Are you living in awakened consciousness or ego consciousness?
Are you the victim or the victor?
Live Awake!
For more clarity on this topic, listen to Mooji
intention
 
About the photographs:
Top: Eaton Canyon in Southern California
Bottom: Klawock Inlet on Prince of Wales Island, Southeast Alaska
For more inspiration check out Journey of JOY

Raging Egos

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Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them ….
it just means you love yourself.

Dealing with Conflict, Negativity and Raging Egos

We all react to negative things …. whether it is something that someone said to us or an act they did against us. When we react to it, we are causing chaos within ourselves and mentally and physically creating pain inside ourselves.  Perhaps you find it difficult to breath when you think of the person and the hurt inside yourself, your heart starts racing, or you get a pain in your gut and the feeling won’t go away.
When people treat others negatively, it is a true reflection of their own inner being. They express their negativity toward you because they are expressing their own inner negative and hurtful expressions. You just happen to be the one at that moment that they are attacking. The Ego loves conflict and drama. One minute they say complementary things to you and the next minute they are taking you down. This action feeds their Ego’s need for conflict and drama. It’s what keeps them going. It’s their oxygen. It is their dis-ease. 

The cells of your body react to everything your mind thinks.

Don’t allow a negative thought to enter
and bring down your immune system.

Remember …. It’s NOT about you ….. it’s about THEM!

So, we respond impulsively and want to lash out at them because of what they said or did to us. That’s a natural response. However, it is not always the smartest thing to do. Nothing will ever be resolved by fueling their fire. It may feel good to fight back, but that is a physical, egoic response. That type of action does not feed our soul and emotional or spiritual stability. That only tightens the gut strings and then our mind starts a one sided conversation telling us things that we shouldn’t be thinking about them in the first place. It is truly a battle of our Ego. It is not only unproductive but it is unnecessary in trying to determine who is right. Anger only feeds anger just as negativity feeds negativity. And nothing good can come from angry and negative feelings and emotions. It’s a downward spiral in trying to defend ourselves. Not only that, it is a waste of our energy.

“Where attention goes, energy flows.”

“What we focus on expands.”

When we focus on negative things we are doing a disservice to our well-being and our intellect. We are wasting our energy that could be focused on our success and for the good of our selves and others. Once you start thinking negatively on one subject it will carry over to the rest of your life, causing hurt and damage to others that may be standing in your path. It’s like a domino effect. Not only do we not feel good but that vibration affects those around us. We carry this energy with us wherever we go and it causes us to lose sight of our balance and clarity which is necessary for our well-being and keeping our Ego in check.

“What you think of me is none of my business!”

Everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it. They are free to express their feelings no matter if they are right or wrong about you. This perspective is their own. We may see something as totally positive and right and the other person may see it in an entirely different light. When we react to their comments or actions it becomes a win-lose situation. Just as they have the right to express themselves, we have the power to choose our response to them. We can engage in conflict or we can choose to walk away.

I choose peace!!

So ….. how do we deal with these difficult people that may be in our lives?
First of all, it rarely turns out well to attack these people who have hurt you. It is best if you sleep on it and not respond right away. We are all human and have Egos and emotions. In order to promote your own health and well-being we must keep our Ego in check. We may just need to walk away from the situation and not respond or we can deliver our message of truth and light to that person. No matter what, we need to keep our Ego under control and not allow a bad situation to get worse.
One thing to ask ourselves is, “Can I forgive this person?” We are all basically good inside but sometimes our judgment gets clouded with negativity and emotions take over our thoughts and actions. We might also ask “What is the Universe trying to teach me in this moment?” Let us not forget that this could be the Universe’s way of showing them their Awakening. We certainly don’t want to stand in the way of their enlightenment. 
The best thing to do is to allow some time to pass even though you feel compelled to instantly lash back at them. When you become emotionally charged and fired up you only add fuel to their fire. Perhaps this is what they want. But this is not what you want. Allow a cool off time. Write in your journal or write an email to yourself expressing your feelings and then delete it. You could also write down all the things about this person or situation that annoy you and are causing you to be this emotional. Write freely without stopping util you have exhausted the subject Now go outside and burn the paper. Let it go!! Visualize all the negative energy burning up and disappearing.
When we are angry and emotional our Ego is raging. Before doing anything, cool off. Don’t act in haste. Instead, nurture yourself from within. Sleep on it. Journal. Meditate. Get out into Nature and think on these things.
Perhaps you choose not to respond to them at all. Really, how much does it matter to your success and well-being, physically, mentally and spiritually? Do you really need to be right? What’s in it for you to be the champion of an argument? This is all unnecessary.
If you choose not to respond, you are, in essence, stopping the cycle. They may be trying their best to get a rise out of you and hurt you further, but it is your choice to “Let it Go!” Don’t give in to what they are looking for. Stop the snowball effect and walk away.

And stop talking about it. People just love to tell others a “he-said-she-said” story. They will talk at length to anyone that will listen. The more we talk about the situation or that person, the more emotional feelings we stir up within ourselves and the more we find fault, dislike for that person or situation and it does us no good to keep repeating the same thing over and over. What we fail to notice is that the more we talk about it, the more it expands, zaps our energy and keeps us from seeking what the Universe wants for us. Refuse to give them that energy. Stop thinking and talking about it. Period! 

When we continue to talk about it, it is like reading the same chapter of a book over and over. 

Instead, develop compassion for this person. We all know the story about walking a mile in someone’s shoes. Better yet, look for the lessons. Everything happens for a reason. This is how we grow and become a better human being. There is a hidden gift in every circumstance and situation that you encounter in your life.

You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind!

That being said, move on …. eliminate negativity from your life. It does not serve you. It only slows you down. It is a drain on your energy and intelligence. It drains your emotions and leaves you feeling weak and unfulfilled. It is best to cut them off from your life. Life is too short to be in constant battle with negativity. People who are unhappy tend to want everyone around them to feel the same way. Get out of their way and continue on your journey of happiness. Avoid them and stop all interactions with them.

This is your choice.

You can choose to continue a relationship or you can walk away. Wash your hands of the energy drain and cut them out of your life. Don’t look back.  Surround yourself with people who support and nourish you, people who love and need you in their lives. Find people that are positive and optimistic and spend time with them. Notice how much differently you feel when these type of people fill your moments.
When we get angry and act like that person, we are going down to their level of unacceptable behavior. Know when you are having emotions of negativity and then reach out to someone who will support you, unconditionally. Don’t allow emotions and negativity to consume you. You can bring focus to these situations by checking in with your breathing. If you breathing is shallow and fast, stop and focus on what you are thinking. Change your pattern. You can do this by going for a walk in Nature, exercising or stopping to meditate and concentrate on your breathing.

Ask yourself: What will happen if I respond back to this person? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that will happen? These questions will add perspective to your thinking and actions. Answering these questions honestly, with thought and purpose, will help create an inner peace and lead you to the answers.

Let it be!
And so it is!
Aho!

Further Reading:
The Sedona Method  by Hale Dwoskin
The Power of NOW by Echkart Tolle
The New Earth by Echkart Tolle
Creative Visualization  by Shakti  Gawain
Stand Like Mountain Flow Like Water  by Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
Happy for No Reason by Marcie Shimof
Emotional Freedom  by Judith Orloff, M.D.
About the photo:  Sunset on Redondo Beach, CA.

Travel theme: Blossom

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Be grateful for the people who make you happy . . .
they are the loving gardeners who make your life blossom.
~ Marcel Proust ~

Bougainvillea, such a delicious name,

Magnificent in morning, brilliant in mid-day,

Effervescent and stunning in evening’s golden hour.

Your thorns attack me but your blossoms make me happy.

Casting shadows under the silvery moonlight,

Your loveliness makes me linger in my garden

As I take in your color and repeat your name.

Bougainvillea. Bougainvillea. Bougainvillea.

 
 
 
 

Weekly Photo Challenge: Threshold

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What better way to capture the theme of  a Threshold than at the door of a library where new beginnings await in every volume … a place where the Tree of Knowledge lives and calls us to open its pages and embark on a new journey or skill.
I have always been fascinated by trees and when I came upon this door, it called me to photograph it. Then, of course, I had to find the origin of the beautiful and artistic piece. Woodworker Ruben Guajardo, born and raised in La Verne, California, took on the project in 1985 when a 500-year old landmark oak tree at the La Verne High School was removed because it had become a safety hazard. He recalls climbing this very tree when he was a child. The door project took him three years to complete which he dedicated to his parents.

Live life a tree . . . take root and reach for the sky!

And speaking of trees …. stop over at my website and check out my fascination with trees and  The Tree of Life.

Weekly Photo Challenge: Habit

I recall, as a little girl, my Mom calling us all into the living room to look at the sunset and enjoy the beauty together.  I still find myself doing the same …. calling anyone around me to enjoy its’ beauty and say farewell to this day.  Why, I’ve been in conversation with a complete stranger and realized that Mother Nature was creating a painting for us and the show would only last a few moments.  Stop. Take in the beauty. Be present!
And of course, I’m almost never without a camera.  Here’s a few photos I’d like to share with you . . .
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One of my favorite photos.  No PhotoShop here. A 360 view, in Alaska, of course!

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California sunset with tree silhouettes.

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Back in Alaska, watching the tide come in and enjoying the view.

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Sky on fire!  Amazing!  I watched this sunset until the last bit of color vanished into the darkness.
What a show!

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I am always amazed at the different shade and hues. No two alike.

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Sunset during forest fires.  Ominous and eerie.

My habit …. to enjoy the sunset in the present moments it is available to us and be grateful for the beautiful colors, shapes and textures, then, to capture it on film for future moments to remember its’ amazing beauty.

“It is a very inconvenient habit of kittens (Alice had once made the remark)
that whatever you say to them, they always purr.”

~ Lewis Carroll ~
Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There 

AND

Just in time to fit in with my post and the theme Habit ….
along comes this great article from fellow blogger
Eric Tonningsen’s “Awakening to Awareness”

A Valuable Ally: Intuition

 

Weekly Photo Challenge: Eerie

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In all things of nature, there is something of the marvelous.

~ Aristotle ~

We walked this way many times on a local hiking path but this day we noticed the face-of-a-man-rock lurking along the path.  Its mysterious shadows yet stalwart gaze gave us an eerie feeling.  Was this Mother Nature’s way of watching us?  Maybe it was the way the shadows fell across the face of the rock from the setting sun that we hadn’t noticed before.  Or perhaps it was Mother Nature’s way of letting us know we were protected or maybe she was just being humorous.  Either way, it was something to marvel at.

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What would an ocean be without a monster lurking in the dark? It would be like sleep without dreams.
~ Werner Herzog ~

Or how about this sea monster located off Peratrovich Island in Southeast Alaska?  The tides draped him with ‘Pop-weed” or more officially Bladderwrack, which, by-the-way, is mineral and iodine-rich when used in cooking and some of the best garden fertilizer around.  None-the-less, an eerie creature indeed as we slowly paddled by on our kayaks.  Once again, another marvel of nature.

Check out more “eerie” stuff here.

Weekly Photo Challenge: Infinite

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Steven Wright, one of my favorite people, said …. “I’m so tired. I was up all night trying to round off infinity.” I love his simply stated humor, with a twist.  Today I am going to look at the world differently, with a twist of humor.  I wonder how things will evolve? We’ll see!!!
Weekly Photo Challenge

Discovering Mindfulness in Listening

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“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence.  When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.”

~ Thich Nhat Hunh ~
When we set our intention to be aware and mindful, it enables us to listen to what others have to say. 
How many times do you find yourself talking to someone and the thoughts in your head are about what you want to contribute to the conversation or about something entirely different?  How well do you really listen to what someone is saying to you?
Today, make your intention to listen and be mindful.  
Realize the gifts in listening. 
And don’t forget to breath before you speak. 
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About the photos: On a recent visit to the desert, we saw these fields of yellow flowers in every direction.  It almost felt like spring time.
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We had to stop and look at these beauties more closely.  We discovered that they looked like miniature sunflowers.  Don’t they just make you smile and beckon you to come and play?

Finding your Brilliance

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Each of us is a radiant being filled with love, passion, creativity and bliss.
How open are you to the this awareness? Many of us squint and turn away from the brightness of light.  But once you realize that your eyes can adjust, you can bathe in the radiance.
Take a deep breath and let go of all the tensions that you are holding in your body.
Three things to reconnect to your true self:
1.  Breath deeply and let it go.
2.  Do something else like take a walk or be around nature.
3.  Make positive affirmations to yourself like:
I am a radiant being and I feel good about myself.
I choose to reveal the highest and best in me.
I am a strong person and my brilliance shines through me.
I adjust my “crap detector” daily!!
About the photo:  This was the sunset last night that entertained us for about an hour with its changing patterns of clouds and light.  Amazing!