What negative thoughts distract you? Thinking of what others have done? Or what they havee not done? Telling yourself stories in your head? Focusing on the past? Or the future?
Are you aware of these negative thoughts? They are a distraction. When we focus on negative thoughts we block the way for being in the present moment and experiencing true happiness, joy, love and conscious living.
But …. being aware of what is really happening every day, every moment, is difficult. It takes work. It takes choice. And only you can make that decision.
How many times have you had worries or made up a story in your mind that was absolutely untrue? These stories come from our former beliefs, those thoughts we grew up with, and the judgments that we carry with us throughout our lives. We have trained ourselves to judge and criticize others and ourselves, not to have self-empathy and self-compassion, telling ourselves that we don’t deserve what we have. It comes from the opinions that we have held for years and years. It could be about ourselves or someone else. In the end, it just makes us sad and depressed, worried and unhappy. Somehow it just seems easier to keep those self-criticisms and live with them day after day rather than letting them go.
As youngsters we learned to pay attention to what we were thinking. Can’t you hear your Mom telling you to pay attention right now? We have become so used to paying attention that we forget about what is really going on around us in the present moment. Or one person tells us that we can’t do something right and we believe it and carry it with us for the rest of our life. As we grow older, we hold on to all those negative sayings and thoughts and tell them to ourselves every day. It’s the same ole, same ole day in and day out. We are living in our heads instead of our hearts.
It took years to build these thoughts and feelings of the Ego so it can be difficult to let go of them. The Egoic Mind, as Eckhart Tolle says, is a reflection of our childhood beliefs that we grew up with and we have been relying on them and telling ourselves stories stemming from these thoughts for years and years.
It’s time for change.
It’s time to make the choice to get our of our heads and into our Inner Being. Let go of the worry, the stories, the fears and just be.
So how do you do this? I could tell you what I am experiencing as I sit here typing this into my blog. But you wouldn’t feel it. Only I can feel it. You have to experience being aware for yourself. No one can do it for you.
First, be aware of what is happening in this very moment. What are you thinking right now? Is it positive or negative? Feel where you body is right now. If you are sitting in front of the computer, feel your body in the chair, feet on the floor, feel your back against the chair. Really stop to feel these sensations. Is the air around you warm or cool? Is your body warm or cool, or just right? What do you smell? What do you see in front of you? What do you hear inside or outside? Now do you hear the birds singing? So many times we are unaware of their beautiful symphonies until we stop and listen.
By becoming aware we allow our senses to feel the juiciness of our being. Give yourself love and compassion because you do deserve it. Tell this to yourself every day, several times a day. When you walk past a mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say, “I love you!” And really mean it.
Add awareness to your thoughts this coming week. When you add awareness to your behavior, feelings or thoughts you tune into your Inner World. So instead of beating yourself up with negative thoughts and untrue stories, be gentle with yourself. Lighten up and stay aware. Observe your thoughts more closely. Check in with yourself often to make sure you are being aware. Step back from any dramatic situation and wake up to awareness. This takes work but you will gain insight and those thoughts and feelings will gradually be replaced by positive thoughts, awareness and insight.
Try that exercise during this coming week. Notice what happens.
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