Get Up and Dance


Dance is the hidden language of the Soul.
~ Martha Graham ~

Our bodies were made to flow and move to deepen our connection to earth and ourselves.

Do you remember dancing as a little child? Or do you smile when you see a child being herself when she hears music and starts to move and dance? As children, we used to dance freely and openly, not caring if anyone was watching. We were totally vulnerable and un-self-conscious.
However, by the time we reach adulthood, or probably even in our early teens, we stopped dancing altogether. We are too afraid that we are going to be judged or criticized for being ourselves or being a show-off, or making a fool of ourselves. Then again, we may just have stopped dancing because we were too busy doing other things that we though were more important.
Whatever the excuse, there is no time like right now to stop what we are doing and start the healing process of dancing and moving our bodies to music, alone or in a group. There are opportunities all around.
This past Saturday Night I went Ecstatic Dancing with a few friends. It was a beautiful experience. The music was upbeat and loud and just listening to it made you feel like moving. It was a place where everyone respected each other and the space around them.  No partners. No pressure. Just being yourself and moving your body to the beat of the music. It was happiness, joyful, blissful and mystic. Interestingly, this type of dancing is springing up everywhere.

Ecstatic Dance is what you make of it . . . 

It’s free form movement in a space
Expanding our mind, body and spirit
Activating the chakras
Letting go of boundaries
Creating moves you wouldn’t have thought of
Flowing beauty
Reinventing rituals
Being in community with friends

Put aside any notion that you might feel too self-conscious because really, no one cares. Stop the chatter in your head that you might make a fool of yourself. It doesn’t matter what you look like. Express yourself and feel the music flowing through you. Feel how good it feels to move your body. Feel the vibrations of the beat in your soul as it heals your body. Treat it is like a meditation for yourself in which you allow yourself to be fully present and uninhibited.
If you don’t want to do this in public, find some music online and just be yourself in the confines of your home. Allow your body to move to the music and check in to see how good it feels to stretch and move and respond to the sounds. Just feel the music without thinking of how you look because no one is watching.
How many of us sit at a computer for long periods during the day? Studies show that we should be getting up and stretching every 15 minutes. Why not use this as an opportunity to get up and dance. Put on some lively music and move. What better way to treat your body with love and movement?
Every culture since the beginning of time has had some form of dance to celebrate life. You were born to move and flow to music. All you have to do is start moving your body. You might even take a dance class to give yourself the boost of confidence that you need to get started.
Discover the joy of healing through dance.

If you can’t get rid of the skeleton in your closet,
you’d best teach it to dance.
~ George Bernard Shaw ~


Who Surrounds You?


Surround yourself with high-energy people.
Choose to be in close proximity to people who are empowering, who appeal to your sense of connection to intention, who see the greatness in you and who live a life that gives evidence that Spirit has found celebration through them.
~ Wayne Dyer ~

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” says American entrepreneur and motivational speaker Jim Rohn. So true!  Those people you choose to hang with are people that are a great influence on your life and will bring your vibration to it’s highest level.
We all know the people who literally suck the life out of us. We can feel there energy when they are around us. You can choose to spend time with them, or you can choose to leave them sitting on the couch eating potato chips.
Surround yourself with good people are positive and happy. They enrich your life. The create a sacred space for you and hold you in highest regard. They inspire you to make you a better person. They are there for you when you need them. They cheer on your successes as well as failures. They are there to help you grow on your journey.

“Surround yourself with people
who make you happy.
People who make you laugh,
who help you when you’re in need.
People who genuinely care.
They are the ones worth keeping
in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.”
~ Karl Marx ~

Remember, like attracts like. When you give off a positive vibration and are positive in what you are and want in life, you will attract like people.
Be yourself! Then watch people come into your life that are perfect for you. Surround yourself with good people and you will be less stressed. Find the joy that you were meant to have.
Mantra: Today I will spend time with meaningful and supportive people.

Celebrate Spring!


“Behold, my friends, the spring is come;

the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun

and we shall soon see the results of their love. “

~ Sitting Bull ~

Every day is a new beginning
Inviting us to breath in deeply the cool morning air,
Starting fresh and anew once again.
Listen to the birds singing their symphony,
Carrying their happy song around the earth.
Notice the new growth of leaves against the azure sky,
Absorb the beauty of Earth all around.
As each new morning dawns, let it be Spring!
About the Photo:  Spring Celebration from It’z YOUR Party!

Raging Egos

Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them ….
it just means you love yourself.

Dealing with Conflict, Negativity and Raging Egos

We all react to negative things …. whether it is something that someone said to us or an act they did against us. When we react to it, we are causing chaos within ourselves and mentally and physically creating pain inside ourselves.  Perhaps you find it difficult to breath when you think of the person and the hurt inside yourself, your heart starts racing, or you get a pain in your gut and the feeling won’t go away.
When people treat others negatively, it is a true reflection of their own inner being. They express their negativity toward you because they are expressing their own inner negative and hurtful expressions. You just happen to be the one at that moment that they are attacking. The Ego loves conflict and drama. One minute they say complementary things to you and the next minute they are taking you down. This action feeds their Ego’s need for conflict and drama. It’s what keeps them going. It’s their oxygen. It is their dis-ease. 

The cells of your body react to everything your mind thinks.

Don’t allow a negative thought to enter
and bring down your immune system.

Remember …. It’s NOT about you ….. it’s about THEM!

So, we respond impulsively and want to lash out at them because of what they said or did to us. That’s a natural response. However, it is not always the smartest thing to do. Nothing will ever be resolved by fueling their fire. It may feel good to fight back, but that is a physical, egoic response. That type of action does not feed our soul and emotional or spiritual stability. That only tightens the gut strings and then our mind starts a one sided conversation telling us things that we shouldn’t be thinking about them in the first place. It is truly a battle of our Ego. It is not only unproductive but it is unnecessary in trying to determine who is right. Anger only feeds anger just as negativity feeds negativity. And nothing good can come from angry and negative feelings and emotions. It’s a downward spiral in trying to defend ourselves. Not only that, it is a waste of our energy.

“Where attention goes, energy flows.”

“What we focus on expands.”

When we focus on negative things we are doing a disservice to our well-being and our intellect. We are wasting our energy that could be focused on our success and for the good of our selves and others. Once you start thinking negatively on one subject it will carry over to the rest of your life, causing hurt and damage to others that may be standing in your path. It’s like a domino effect. Not only do we not feel good but that vibration affects those around us. We carry this energy with us wherever we go and it causes us to lose sight of our balance and clarity which is necessary for our well-being and keeping our Ego in check.

“What you think of me is none of my business!”

Everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it. They are free to express their feelings no matter if they are right or wrong about you. This perspective is their own. We may see something as totally positive and right and the other person may see it in an entirely different light. When we react to their comments or actions it becomes a win-lose situation. Just as they have the right to express themselves, we have the power to choose our response to them. We can engage in conflict or we can choose to walk away.

I choose peace!!

So ….. how do we deal with these difficult people that may be in our lives?
First of all, it rarely turns out well to attack these people who have hurt you. It is best if you sleep on it and not respond right away. We are all human and have Egos and emotions. In order to promote your own health and well-being we must keep our Ego in check. We may just need to walk away from the situation and not respond or we can deliver our message of truth and light to that person. No matter what, we need to keep our Ego under control and not allow a bad situation to get worse.
One thing to ask ourselves is, “Can I forgive this person?” We are all basically good inside but sometimes our judgment gets clouded with negativity and emotions take over our thoughts and actions. We might also ask “What is the Universe trying to teach me in this moment?” Let us not forget that this could be the Universe’s way of showing them their Awakening. We certainly don’t want to stand in the way of their enlightenment. 
The best thing to do is to allow some time to pass even though you feel compelled to instantly lash back at them. When you become emotionally charged and fired up you only add fuel to their fire. Perhaps this is what they want. But this is not what you want. Allow a cool off time. Write in your journal or write an email to yourself expressing your feelings and then delete it. You could also write down all the things about this person or situation that annoy you and are causing you to be this emotional. Write freely without stopping util you have exhausted the subject Now go outside and burn the paper. Let it go!! Visualize all the negative energy burning up and disappearing.
When we are angry and emotional our Ego is raging. Before doing anything, cool off. Don’t act in haste. Instead, nurture yourself from within. Sleep on it. Journal. Meditate. Get out into Nature and think on these things.
Perhaps you choose not to respond to them at all. Really, how much does it matter to your success and well-being, physically, mentally and spiritually? Do you really need to be right? What’s in it for you to be the champion of an argument? This is all unnecessary.
If you choose not to respond, you are, in essence, stopping the cycle. They may be trying their best to get a rise out of you and hurt you further, but it is your choice to “Let it Go!” Don’t give in to what they are looking for. Stop the snowball effect and walk away.

And stop talking about it. People just love to tell others a “he-said-she-said” story. They will talk at length to anyone that will listen. The more we talk about the situation or that person, the more emotional feelings we stir up within ourselves and the more we find fault, dislike for that person or situation and it does us no good to keep repeating the same thing over and over. What we fail to notice is that the more we talk about it, the more it expands, zaps our energy and keeps us from seeking what the Universe wants for us. Refuse to give them that energy. Stop thinking and talking about it. Period! 

When we continue to talk about it, it is like reading the same chapter of a book over and over. 

Instead, develop compassion for this person. We all know the story about walking a mile in someone’s shoes. Better yet, look for the lessons. Everything happens for a reason. This is how we grow and become a better human being. There is a hidden gift in every circumstance and situation that you encounter in your life.

You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind!

That being said, move on …. eliminate negativity from your life. It does not serve you. It only slows you down. It is a drain on your energy and intelligence. It drains your emotions and leaves you feeling weak and unfulfilled. It is best to cut them off from your life. Life is too short to be in constant battle with negativity. People who are unhappy tend to want everyone around them to feel the same way. Get out of their way and continue on your journey of happiness. Avoid them and stop all interactions with them.

This is your choice.

You can choose to continue a relationship or you can walk away. Wash your hands of the energy drain and cut them out of your life. Don’t look back.  Surround yourself with people who support and nourish you, people who love and need you in their lives. Find people that are positive and optimistic and spend time with them. Notice how much differently you feel when these type of people fill your moments.
When we get angry and act like that person, we are going down to their level of unacceptable behavior. Know when you are having emotions of negativity and then reach out to someone who will support you, unconditionally. Don’t allow emotions and negativity to consume you. You can bring focus to these situations by checking in with your breathing. If you breathing is shallow and fast, stop and focus on what you are thinking. Change your pattern. You can do this by going for a walk in Nature, exercising or stopping to meditate and concentrate on your breathing.

Ask yourself: What will happen if I respond back to this person? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that will happen? These questions will add perspective to your thinking and actions. Answering these questions honestly, with thought and purpose, will help create an inner peace and lead you to the answers.

Let it be!
And so it is!

Further Reading:
The Sedona Method  by Hale Dwoskin
The Power of NOW by Echkart Tolle
The New Earth by Echkart Tolle
Creative Visualization  by Shakti  Gawain
Stand Like Mountain Flow Like Water  by Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
Happy for No Reason by Marcie Shimof
Emotional Freedom  by Judith Orloff, M.D.
About the photo:  Sunset on Redondo Beach, CA.

Happy π Day – 3.14.15

The official celebration of Pi Day was organized in San Francisco by Larry Shaw in 1988. He was a physicist at the SF Exploratorium and on that day the everyone marched around one of the circular spaces while eating fruit pies. They still celebrate this today at the Exploratorium. Some people celebrate the entire month of March as “Pi Month”.
Today is of special significance … 3/14/15 (especially at 9:26:53 am and pm) with the date and time representing the first ten digits of π. This won’t happen again for the next 100 years.
Interestingly, Albert Einstein was born today in 1879.  And also noteworthy, Spock, in a Star Trek episode “Wolf in the Fold.” commands the evil computer to “compute to last digit the value of pi.” Is he, we ask, the only being who can rationally solve a problem using an irrational number?
What is it about this number that so intrigues the geek-ish mind? So much so that it has been calculated out to more than 13 trillion digits. And there is no end in sight. Honestly, can you ever calculate something that is never going to be flat in our curved Universe?

It’s all relative!

About the photo: From the Palindaba Lavender Farm in the San Juan Islands.

Thoughts from my Flower Bed …..


Thoughts from my Flower Bed ….. Bloom where you are planted.

Here’s to my cute little thrift-shop-find doll bed which I converted into a “flower bed”, where my lantana are thriving and almost outgrowing.  It makes me smile every time I walk by to see their whimsical and sweet smiling faces.