Your Relationship with Yourself


“Our relationships with others are only as good
as our relationship with ourselves.”

~ TheRealCenter.Org ~

Recently I came across the phrase “somatic awareness”, which I had never heard of.  I started looking into this meaning and found out that it simply means “learning to feel your body.” It sounds very simple. Yet when I started to think about it I realized that most of us are lacking this . . .  our thoughts, our relationships and daily living. Perhaps that is the reason why there is so much pain and discontent in the world.

What we are missing in our lives is staying connected to our bodies during every day stresses, feeding ourselves with negative self-talk and not trusting our bodies to guide us and heal our ailments.

We forget to allow pleasures into our being that can nourish and heal us. We go about our daily lives in a rush to get done as much as possible, to find acceptance with our peers, our boss, our lovers. And we bring ourselves so much suffering. Why?

Because our relationships with others is only as good
as our relationship with ourselves.

If you are happy and joyful, those people around you respond differently toward you than if you are difficult to live with or moody and grumpy. Yes, we all have traumatic experiences that we face from day to day, but the more baggage you carry around with you the less you will enjoy life and the less others will want to be with you. This baggage weighs you down, keeps you bound in your negative thoughts and unresolved issues continue to be unresolved.

We spend years thinking and talking about the past, telling the same stories in our head and to those around us. We are literally “stuck” in our heads. However, the body knows how to heal and take care of itself. Healing happens in our body, not in our mind. Granted, the body cannot heal if the mind is constantly telling it otherwise.

We have been miraculously designed to heal, physically, emotionally and spiritually. When we allow ourselves to just feel our body sensations, our body knows how to heal and it takes over. If you get a splinter in your finger, the body knows how to get rid of it and heal. When we face traumatic situations, like a lover leaving us or a friend deserting us, our body knows how to handle that as well if we step back and just let our body do what it knows how to do. It will take care of you. We are resilient and designed to heal and we don’t even know it. We don’t know it because we have been conditioned to take pills and medications that we think will help. There are all those outside forces telling us what we should do. And then there is the self-talk that gets in the way. What do you say when you talk to yourself? Are they negative thoughts that hold you back. or positive ones that move you out of the situation and back on your journey?

When we step back and allow somatic awareness to take over, pain dissipates, we are no longer judging of ourselves and our situations, life takes on new meanings and you experience joy and peace you have never known. The hurt diminishes and you become the beautiful person you were born to be.

“You can’t be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
~ Wayne W. Dyer ~

“To the question of your life you are the answer,
and to the problems of your life, you are the solution.”
~ Joe Cordare ~

Laughter Meditation

We usually don’t think of laughter as a type of meditation but it is definitely a powerful one when you try it. It involves our entire body, our emotions and our soul. Laughing actually puts you into the present moment and helps to relieve stress. It can also open our eyes to the less serious side of life and helps us notice how absurd our lives really are sometimes.
For starters, stretch your entire body, arms, legs, neck, face. Yes, even make silly faces. Then start to laugh. You can think about something funny, perhaps a photograph (like my four-legged friend, Girlie), a joke, a scene from a movie or a situation when you laughed so hard you thought your belly would burst or your eyes started to tear. Let the laughter ripple from your head to your toes. You can even roll on the floor if you like, but just keep laughing.
Once you have had enough, sit quietly for a few moments. Check in with how your body feels. Do you feel a release?  Think about this exercise during the day and smile to yourself. Make yourself aware that this practice can lighten the stress of your daily routine and bring you more joy.

A day without laughter is a day wasted.
~ Charlie Chaplin ~


The UN-resolution


The UN-resolution

Now that 2015 is well underway, how are you doing with your “Resolutions”?
Did you know? . . . 24% of people never succeed and fail on their resolution each year.
Are you the 8% of the people that actually keep your New Year’s Intention? Be honest. Sure the fitness centers and gyms are all a-buzz with new converts early in the year but by February 52% have already given up their goals.  However, people who explicitly make a New Year’s Resolution are about 10 times more likely to achieve their goals than people who don’t ever make a resolution.
I have been there! I don’t do resolutions. I prefer to use a word or phrase to inspire, motivate and create a thoughtful process to keep an emotion or feeling rather than a goal that I don’t think I will ever be able to achieve. And it’s all about how you go about it. If our grandiose goals stand in the way, we will not ever get there. Instead, taking baby steps is the best way to get to where you want to be, just putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward with your ideas and inspirations.

 My phrase for this New Year is Let it GO! Let it FLOW!

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality.
Let things flow naturally forward
in whatever way they like.
~ Lao Tzu ~