Give up on the idea of trying to find yourself.
Instead realize that you are creating yourself every day.
In Invisible Man, Ralph Ellison summed it up this way: All my life I had been looking for something, and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. I accepted their answers too, though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. I was naive. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I, and only I, could answer. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself.
No one can influence who you are. You can still listen to what others have to say but you have the final choice. The final decisions and the acceptance of YOU are up to you.
Being yourself will be easier to find who you really are. Every day you are creating a new YOU.
Today I will stay true to myself and create another fabulous me.
About the photo: This was taken in the Poppy Fields near Frazier Park, California. It was a beautiful day of just sitting on the hill, being present and watching the array of brilliant orange color in every direction.