Does this bring me JOY?

What is getting in your way of a JOYful Journey?

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We all have things in our lives that get in the way.
It could be negative friends, a failing relationship or an unhappy job situation.
All of these things are types of clutter that gets in our way.
Is clutter an obstacle on your path?
Today, I’d like to focus on the clutter that is around you in your house. This is a very therapeutic place to start …. deCluttering what is directly in contact with your life, at this very moment. It’s a great way to cleanse your house and mind and get on the path to eliminating the baggage that holds you back from being your true self and having the life you want.
By deCluttering the things around you, you start to feel better about yourself, which in turn can help you eliminate the other areas of clutter in your life.
Take Inventory!
Is your closet stuffed full of clothes you never wear?
Is there no room in your garage for your car?
Is your house in a tizzy?
Do you spend an endless amount of time looking for things?
Do you wish that you were more organized?
What is going on in your world?
Are you living in a world of clutter and disorganization?
I have too much stuff
You are busy with your life, your career, your hobbies, your family. We downsize our dreams of how our life might be. Can you relate to this? Sometimes it doesn’t so feel good.
I invite you to look around you in this moment.
Is your desk covered with papers and junk?
Are things spilling around you and on to the floor?
Is there a mess in the kitchen sink from last night’s dinner?
Are your clothes scattered all over your bedroom?
“But . . . I don’t know where to start.”

As you look around you, I want to invite you let’s have a conversation to help support you in making your life more in alignment with your vision and who you really want and desire to be ….. to be clutter free ….. to know where things are …… to save time in knowing where everything is and create more time in your life to do the things you really want to do.
A place for everything! A thing for every place!
After many years of being disorganized myself, I have learned some valuable tools to help you reclaim, find and build your life back again to live without the clutter and disorganization. So many of us are striving for this but we don’t know where to start.
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I encourage you to take a few moments and feel the space around you. How would you envision your space to look? How would having less clutter help you see your life and the world? How would this renewal of space help you in your daily life?
How can deCluttering help me get organized in other areas of my life? 

Listen to your thoughts. 
I invite you to claim your space and your surroundings for YOU. Take responsibility, listen to your heart and step into a new way of thinking as you clear the clutter from your life.
Ask yourself …… “Does this bring me JOY?”
I have a FREE offer for you …… Let’s arrange a time for us to talk about deCluttering your life and your space. Click this link to schedule.  Sometimes, all we need is a guiding hand for support.
You know . . .  you can do this! 
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“Out of clutter, find simplicity.”
~ Albert Einstein ~
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It's the Little Things That Count

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Sometimes we need to step back and enjoy the little things in Life.

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Often times we take for granted things that we have seen before because we know something about them, like their name, color or description.

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Instead, take in the view as if it were the first time you have seen this object.
Don’t have any description for it but view it
as if it were the first time you’ve seen it.

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View life with curiosity, as if looking through the eyes of a child.

What can you see right now that you can observe
without any judgement or description to your mind?

Enjoy the little things in Life!

 

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Get Up and Dance

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Dance is the hidden language of the Soul.
~ Martha Graham ~

Our bodies were made to flow and move to deepen our connection to earth and ourselves.

Do you remember dancing as a little child? Or do you smile when you see a child being herself when she hears music and starts to move and dance? As children, we used to dance freely and openly, not caring if anyone was watching. We were totally vulnerable and un-self-conscious.
However, by the time we reach adulthood, or probably even in our early teens, we stopped dancing altogether. We are too afraid that we are going to be judged or criticized for being ourselves or being a show-off, or making a fool of ourselves. Then again, we may just have stopped dancing because we were too busy doing other things that we though were more important.
Whatever the excuse, there is no time like right now to stop what we are doing and start the healing process of dancing and moving our bodies to music, alone or in a group. There are opportunities all around.
This past Saturday Night I went Ecstatic Dancing with a few friends. It was a beautiful experience. The music was upbeat and loud and just listening to it made you feel like moving. It was a place where everyone respected each other and the space around them.  No partners. No pressure. Just being yourself and moving your body to the beat of the music. It was happiness, joyful, blissful and mystic. Interestingly, this type of dancing is springing up everywhere.

Ecstatic Dance is what you make of it . . . 

It’s free form movement in a space
Expanding our mind, body and spirit
Activating the chakras
Letting go of boundaries
Creating moves you wouldn’t have thought of
Flowing beauty
Reinventing rituals
Being in community with friends

Put aside any notion that you might feel too self-conscious because really, no one cares. Stop the chatter in your head that you might make a fool of yourself. It doesn’t matter what you look like. Express yourself and feel the music flowing through you. Feel how good it feels to move your body. Feel the vibrations of the beat in your soul as it heals your body. Treat it is like a meditation for yourself in which you allow yourself to be fully present and uninhibited.
If you don’t want to do this in public, find some music online and just be yourself in the confines of your home. Allow your body to move to the music and check in to see how good it feels to stretch and move and respond to the sounds. Just feel the music without thinking of how you look because no one is watching.
How many of us sit at a computer for long periods during the day? Studies show that we should be getting up and stretching every 15 minutes. Why not use this as an opportunity to get up and dance. Put on some lively music and move. What better way to treat your body with love and movement?
Every culture since the beginning of time has had some form of dance to celebrate life. You were born to move and flow to music. All you have to do is start moving your body. You might even take a dance class to give yourself the boost of confidence that you need to get started.
Discover the joy of healing through dance.

If you can’t get rid of the skeleton in your closet,
you’d best teach it to dance.
~ George Bernard Shaw ~

 

Drum Beats of the Spirit and Life

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Drumming is the oldest form of music that renews our rhythms and is likened to the heartbeat of a mother when we were in the womb.  In Native American cultures drumming is used as a means to reconnect our physical and spiritual selves and put us in touch with our natural rhythms. It is also a very important part of ceremonies, rituals and celebrations of life cycles.  It puts us in tune with the rhythms of the earth and a deep place within to make us aware of our body, mind and spirit while relieving tensions, stress and aggressive feelings. It restores our energy and vibrations to bring us closer to Mother Earth and powerfully moves us toward a new level of conscious awareness.

“We are a tribe, a cauldron of potential, a seed of possibility. We are women growing, learning, deepening, clearing, opening. We are gathering. We are healing. We are ready to be in service to a new way of living, to sharing our authentic, sassy, bright, quiet, loud, vulnerable, powerful selves.”

~ HeatherAsh Amara ~
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Celebrate Spring!

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“Behold, my friends, the spring is come;

the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun

and we shall soon see the results of their love. “

~ Sitting Bull ~

 
Every day is a new beginning
Inviting us to breath in deeply the cool morning air,
Starting fresh and anew once again.
Listen to the birds singing their symphony,
Carrying their happy song around the earth.
Notice the new growth of leaves against the azure sky,
Absorb the beauty of Earth all around.
As each new morning dawns, let it be Spring!
 
About the Photo:  Spring Celebration from It’z YOUR Party!

Aligning Our Choices

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“Align yourself with people that you can learn from,
people who want more out of life,
people who are stretching and searching
and seeking some higher ground in life.”

~ Les Brown ~

When your emotional center is in harmony with what is happening around you,  your entire being will flourish and thrive. When you embrace that alignment you will see and feel a difference. Life will flow from within and bring you peace, harmony and success.
However, if your inner and outer world don’t align, you will feel stress, negativity, doubt, fear and resistance to everything around you. Your energy is blocked.  There is uncertainty and conflict. It’s like driving in the wrong lane on the freeway; a downward spiral of events and negative energy that leaves you feeling helpless, dis-empowered and dis-eased.
When you pause, reset your course, go back to center and allow the inner and outer energies to match, things in your material world will flourish. This means that when the inner and outer world are in accord, there is harmony and peace. Decisions are easier to make. Life becomes more connected. Embrace and expand your inner awareness, attune your inner self with the alignment of your inner and outer emotions to experience harmony and balance to make the right choices. Your decisions will help you feel centered.
Here’s 6 things to consider when making a decision:
1. Only make decisions when you feel centered to make the right choices. Don’t make choices when you feel distressed or emotionally insecure. This will only cause more pain.
2. Never act when you have uncertain feelings or are not sure of your decisions. There is a right and wrong time for everything. Knowing when the right time is when you are feeling centered and focused. Think before you speak.
3. If other people around you are expressing disagreement, discomfort or are resisting you, this is a time for you to awaken and realize that your inner and outer self are not in agreement. When things aren’t working, try something different. Take stock in your emotions. Spend time alone meditating on your decisions.
4. Be patient and wait for the right moment to make a decision. Everything you need is within you. Sometimes it takes time for the answers to come to the surface.
5. Sleep on it. Live with your choices and decisions for a day or so before sharing it with those around you. When you hastily make a decision, without spending time thinking and meditating, you are setting up roadblocks for your development and inner nourishment.
6. Ask for support and help from the people involved or those around you. If you act out of stress and misalignment, they will feel that and react to you in a negative way. Don’t shut yourself off from what they have to offer you in the way of consolation and nurturing. They were put in your life to help you grow. This not only develops an atmosphere for love, support and comfort, but helps you align into your true self. Your inner and outer harmony must mesh before your inner and outer world can be perfectly aligned.
 

“True freedom and the end of suffering is living in such a way as if you had completely chosen whatever you feel or experience at this moment. This inner alignment with NOW is the end of suffering. Is suffering really necessary? Yes and no. If you had not suffered as you have, there would be no depth to you as a human being, no humility, no compassion. You would not be reading this now. Suffering cracks open the shell of ego, and then comes a point when it has served its purpose. Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.

~ Eckhart Tolle ~

Raging Egos

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Letting go of negative people doesn’t mean you hate them ….
it just means you love yourself.

Dealing with Conflict, Negativity and Raging Egos

We all react to negative things …. whether it is something that someone said to us or an act they did against us. When we react to it, we are causing chaos within ourselves and mentally and physically creating pain inside ourselves.  Perhaps you find it difficult to breath when you think of the person and the hurt inside yourself, your heart starts racing, or you get a pain in your gut and the feeling won’t go away.
When people treat others negatively, it is a true reflection of their own inner being. They express their negativity toward you because they are expressing their own inner negative and hurtful expressions. You just happen to be the one at that moment that they are attacking. The Ego loves conflict and drama. One minute they say complementary things to you and the next minute they are taking you down. This action feeds their Ego’s need for conflict and drama. It’s what keeps them going. It’s their oxygen. It is their dis-ease. 

The cells of your body react to everything your mind thinks.

Don’t allow a negative thought to enter
and bring down your immune system.

Remember …. It’s NOT about you ….. it’s about THEM!

So, we respond impulsively and want to lash out at them because of what they said or did to us. That’s a natural response. However, it is not always the smartest thing to do. Nothing will ever be resolved by fueling their fire. It may feel good to fight back, but that is a physical, egoic response. That type of action does not feed our soul and emotional or spiritual stability. That only tightens the gut strings and then our mind starts a one sided conversation telling us things that we shouldn’t be thinking about them in the first place. It is truly a battle of our Ego. It is not only unproductive but it is unnecessary in trying to determine who is right. Anger only feeds anger just as negativity feeds negativity. And nothing good can come from angry and negative feelings and emotions. It’s a downward spiral in trying to defend ourselves. Not only that, it is a waste of our energy.

“Where attention goes, energy flows.”

“What we focus on expands.”

When we focus on negative things we are doing a disservice to our well-being and our intellect. We are wasting our energy that could be focused on our success and for the good of our selves and others. Once you start thinking negatively on one subject it will carry over to the rest of your life, causing hurt and damage to others that may be standing in your path. It’s like a domino effect. Not only do we not feel good but that vibration affects those around us. We carry this energy with us wherever we go and it causes us to lose sight of our balance and clarity which is necessary for our well-being and keeping our Ego in check.

“What you think of me is none of my business!”

Everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it. They are free to express their feelings no matter if they are right or wrong about you. This perspective is their own. We may see something as totally positive and right and the other person may see it in an entirely different light. When we react to their comments or actions it becomes a win-lose situation. Just as they have the right to express themselves, we have the power to choose our response to them. We can engage in conflict or we can choose to walk away.

I choose peace!!

So ….. how do we deal with these difficult people that may be in our lives?
First of all, it rarely turns out well to attack these people who have hurt you. It is best if you sleep on it and not respond right away. We are all human and have Egos and emotions. In order to promote your own health and well-being we must keep our Ego in check. We may just need to walk away from the situation and not respond or we can deliver our message of truth and light to that person. No matter what, we need to keep our Ego under control and not allow a bad situation to get worse.
One thing to ask ourselves is, “Can I forgive this person?” We are all basically good inside but sometimes our judgment gets clouded with negativity and emotions take over our thoughts and actions. We might also ask “What is the Universe trying to teach me in this moment?” Let us not forget that this could be the Universe’s way of showing them their Awakening. We certainly don’t want to stand in the way of their enlightenment. 
The best thing to do is to allow some time to pass even though you feel compelled to instantly lash back at them. When you become emotionally charged and fired up you only add fuel to their fire. Perhaps this is what they want. But this is not what you want. Allow a cool off time. Write in your journal or write an email to yourself expressing your feelings and then delete it. You could also write down all the things about this person or situation that annoy you and are causing you to be this emotional. Write freely without stopping util you have exhausted the subject Now go outside and burn the paper. Let it go!! Visualize all the negative energy burning up and disappearing.
When we are angry and emotional our Ego is raging. Before doing anything, cool off. Don’t act in haste. Instead, nurture yourself from within. Sleep on it. Journal. Meditate. Get out into Nature and think on these things.
Perhaps you choose not to respond to them at all. Really, how much does it matter to your success and well-being, physically, mentally and spiritually? Do you really need to be right? What’s in it for you to be the champion of an argument? This is all unnecessary.
If you choose not to respond, you are, in essence, stopping the cycle. They may be trying their best to get a rise out of you and hurt you further, but it is your choice to “Let it Go!” Don’t give in to what they are looking for. Stop the snowball effect and walk away.

And stop talking about it. People just love to tell others a “he-said-she-said” story. They will talk at length to anyone that will listen. The more we talk about the situation or that person, the more emotional feelings we stir up within ourselves and the more we find fault, dislike for that person or situation and it does us no good to keep repeating the same thing over and over. What we fail to notice is that the more we talk about it, the more it expands, zaps our energy and keeps us from seeking what the Universe wants for us. Refuse to give them that energy. Stop thinking and talking about it. Period! 

When we continue to talk about it, it is like reading the same chapter of a book over and over. 

Instead, develop compassion for this person. We all know the story about walking a mile in someone’s shoes. Better yet, look for the lessons. Everything happens for a reason. This is how we grow and become a better human being. There is a hidden gift in every circumstance and situation that you encounter in your life.

You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind!

That being said, move on …. eliminate negativity from your life. It does not serve you. It only slows you down. It is a drain on your energy and intelligence. It drains your emotions and leaves you feeling weak and unfulfilled. It is best to cut them off from your life. Life is too short to be in constant battle with negativity. People who are unhappy tend to want everyone around them to feel the same way. Get out of their way and continue on your journey of happiness. Avoid them and stop all interactions with them.

This is your choice.

You can choose to continue a relationship or you can walk away. Wash your hands of the energy drain and cut them out of your life. Don’t look back.  Surround yourself with people who support and nourish you, people who love and need you in their lives. Find people that are positive and optimistic and spend time with them. Notice how much differently you feel when these type of people fill your moments.
When we get angry and act like that person, we are going down to their level of unacceptable behavior. Know when you are having emotions of negativity and then reach out to someone who will support you, unconditionally. Don’t allow emotions and negativity to consume you. You can bring focus to these situations by checking in with your breathing. If you breathing is shallow and fast, stop and focus on what you are thinking. Change your pattern. You can do this by going for a walk in Nature, exercising or stopping to meditate and concentrate on your breathing.

Ask yourself: What will happen if I respond back to this person? What is the worst thing that could happen? What is the best thing that will happen? These questions will add perspective to your thinking and actions. Answering these questions honestly, with thought and purpose, will help create an inner peace and lead you to the answers.

Let it be!
And so it is!
Aho!

Further Reading:
The Sedona Method  by Hale Dwoskin
The Power of NOW by Echkart Tolle
The New Earth by Echkart Tolle
Creative Visualization  by Shakti  Gawain
Stand Like Mountain Flow Like Water  by Brian Luke Seaward, Ph.D.
Happy for No Reason by Marcie Shimof
Emotional Freedom  by Judith Orloff, M.D.
About the photo:  Sunset on Redondo Beach, CA.

Why are you trying so hard?

 

Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?

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Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?

Do you fear being thought of as “strange” if you “stand out”?
Are “different” from others?
Do you look at the world through different eyes?
Do you know your gifts? Are you grateful for them?
You are your greatest gift!
We all spend more time than necessary trying to fit in or blend. It’s the way our culture has programmed us. But consider this …. some people were meant to stand out. However, for many of us, the older we get, the more we don’t care how much we stand out in the crowd because we have finally come to reason with our self-esteem. 
Accept who you are even if you are different or stand alone. It doesn’t matter. You are your own person, an individual who has confidence to accept who you are in the face of others who may laugh at you. Let them laugh! Besides, what you think of me …. is none of my business! 
You are and have something special, whether you know it or not right now.
Love yourself! Be thankful for your gifts. You are the greatest gift of all!
Live your own life. Stand in your own confidence. Start living your life as if no one is watching.
It’s a beautiful world and it’s all right out there in front of you. Go for it!!
 
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…and once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive, you won’t even be sure whether the storm is really over, but one thing is certain… when you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in … that is what this storm is all about.
Haruki Murakami ~

My Wish for You . . .

 
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This is my wish for you:

Comfort on difficult days,
smiles when sadness intrudes,
rainbows to follow the clouds,
laughter to kiss your lips,
sunsets to warm your heart,
hugs when spirits sag,
beauty for your eyes to see,
friendships to brighten your being,
faith so that you can believe,
confidence for when you doubt,
courage to know yourself,
patience to accept the truth,
Love to complete your life.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~